It’s sad to think just how suspicious we have become these days. I know that many people are out to scam us and that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is, but sometimes I don’t understand how people can be so unbelieving of something as simple as ordinary kindness or consideration.
For example, this afternoon I went shopping in Sainsburys with my lovely hubby. We don’t often shop there, but we sometimes do a “top-up” shop in between our main grocery shopping (which is done as Asda because it’s cheaper and usually has a slightly wider selection of goods). As a result, we don’t have a Nectar Card (it’s basically a credit card with a points system built in – when you shop, you earn points on your spend which can then be spent on other things).
As usual, when we got to the checkout, we were inevitably asked, “Do you have a Nectar Card?” Not having one, I turned to the next person in the queue and said, “We don’t have a Nectar Card, would you like our points?”
Usually, this offer is greeted with a smile and thanks, but on this occasion, the woman behind us eyed us with suspicion. I had to reassure her that we didn’t want anything – we just had no need of the points (as we don’t have the aforementioned card) and didn’t want to see them go to waste. She then very reluctantly produced her Nectar Card as we handed over the cash for our purchases.
Now, as it turns out, we spent about £50 on this occasion as it’s going to be another week before I get to go grocery shopping. This means she’d be getting somewhere around 50 Nectar points – quite a nice little haul. She didn’t even say thank you, but instead continued to eye us with caution as we walked away with our shopping.
Call me cynical, but was it so hard to believe that someone might be so kind as to pass the points to the next person when they have no means of collecting them for themselves? Is it so unusual for people to show a little consideration in this way? Please tell me, because I’d really like to know! Have you ever tried offering your points to someone? Did the person thank you or were they thrown by your generosity? Or has someone offered you their points? What was your reaction?
Personally, I have been offered Nectar Points from someone else’s purchase – I thanked them and explained I didn’t have a card either – the person behind me was very grateful to receive the points from both the people in front of her!
Surely small acts of random kindness aren’t so rare as to cause fear and suspicion in people in general? Or am I wrong?